20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 1. Recognize that Self-Esteem is Self-Imposed
This session helps you shift the way you understand self-esteem so you can begin to take back control from external judgment and social comparison.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 2. Write Your Life Script
This practice helps you become aware of how you currently view yourself so you can begin the process of editing and reshaping those beliefs.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 3: Examine Your Self-Labels
This practice encourages you to observe your internal dialogue without judgment and begin the process of meaningful change by first building awareness.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 4: Start Reducing Your Self-Labeling
After building awareness in Step 3, this step helps you begin the process of reducing how often you criticize yourself, using simple tools and realistic expectations.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 5. Create Daily Affirmations
This audio guides you in using affirmations as a daily practice to shift your focus from self-criticism to self-recognition—one small step at a time.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 6. Be Courteous in Your Self-talk
This audio guides you in making small but powerful changes to the language you use with yourself—shifting from judgment to encouragement.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 7. Accept Compliments and Stop Apologizing
This audio helps you recognize these patterns and begin practicing new, healthier responses that support your self-worth.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 8. Hold Your Head Up
Even if you don’t feel confident, you can begin to build self-esteem by practicing the physical posture of confidence and presence.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 9. Make Eye Contact and Smile
Even if it feels vulnerable at first, this practice can help you shift how others respond to you—and how you see yourself.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 10. Say "Hello"
Even brief greetings can create a chain of positive interactions that help shift how others respond to you—and how you feel about yourself.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 11. Don't Evaluate Yourself Based on Others
This audio encourages you to shift your focus inward and begin assessing yourself based on who you truly are, not on how others behave.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 12. Focus on Other People
This audio guides you in practicing mindful engagement—paying full attention to others in a way that fosters connection, confidence, and mutual respect.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 13. Be Direct
This audio guides you in using both tone and clarity to express yourself effectively, without fear of unnecessary rejection.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 14. Internalize Positive Responses
This audio helps you shift from brushing off compliments to truly owning your strengths in a realistic, meaningful way.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 15. Accept Failure
This audio reframes failure as a natural and necessary part of growth—not something to be feared or avoided.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 16. Visualize Success
This audio guides you to mentally rehearse success by identifying achievable steps—improving both your mindset and your outcomes.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 17. Mentally Rehearse
This audio guides you in practicing your success strategies in your mind—helping you prepare for real-life challenges with greater clarity and confidence.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 18. Act with Confidence-
This audio helps you begin to shift your role, build new beliefs about your capability, and reinforce your self-worth through action.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 19. Redefine Rejection
This audio explores how approval-seeking undermines self-worth—and how embracing your uniqueness, even when others disagree, strengthens it.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 20. Re-write Your Life Script
Based on cognitive-behavioral principles, this final step brings together the skills you’ve developed and provides a way to maintain your growth going forward.
20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Reflection and Next Steps
Take time to reflect on the progress you’ve made and how to continue strengthening your self-esteem. Learn how to use your life script as a living guide for growth and how to stay on track even when old habits resurface.