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Popular Articles

Crazy-Makers: Dealing with Passive-Aggressive People

Why Are People Mean? Don't Take It Personally!

When You Have Been Betrayed

Struggling to Forgive: An Inability to Grieve

Happy Habits: 50 Suggestions

The Secret of Happiness: Let It Find You (But Make the Effort)

Excellence vs. Perfection

Depression is Not Sadness

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem

7 Rules and 8 Methods for Responding to Passive-aggressive People

What to Do When Your Jealousy Threatens to Destroy Your Marriage

Happiness is An Attitude

Guide to How to Set Achieveable Goals

Catastrophe? Or Inconvenience?

Popular Audios

Panic Assistance

Motivational Audios

Mindfulness Training

Rational Thinking

Relaxation for Children

Loving Kindness Meditation

Self-Esteem Exercise

Lies You Were Told

Choosing Happiness

Audio Version of Article: Crazy-Makers: Passive-Aggressive People

Audio Version of Article: Why Are People Mean? Don't Take It Personally!

Audio Version of Article: Happiness Is An Attitude

All Audio Articles

What You'll Learn:

This session helps you shift the way you understand self-esteem so you can begin to take back control from external judgment and social comparison.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 2. Write Your Life Script

What You'll Learn:

This practice helps you become aware of how you currently view yourself so you can begin the process of editing and reshaping those beliefs.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 3: Examine Your Self-Labels

What You'll Learn:

This practice encourages you to observe your internal dialogue without judgment and begin the process of meaningful change by first building awareness.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 4: Start Reducing Your Self-Labeling

What You'll Learn:

After building awareness in Step 3, this step helps you begin the process of reducing how often you criticize yourself, using simple tools and realistic expectations.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 5. Create Daily Affirmations

What You'll Learn:

This audio guides you in using affirmations as a daily practice to shift your focus from self-criticism to self-recognition—one small step at a time.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 6. Be Courteous in Your Self-talk

What You'll Learn:

This audio guides you in making small but powerful changes to the language you use with yourself—shifting from judgment to encouragement.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 7. Accept Compliments and Stop Apologizing

What You'll Learn:

This audio helps you recognize these patterns and begin practicing new, healthier responses that support your self-worth.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 8. Hold Your Head Up

What You'll Learn:

Even if you don’t feel confident, you can begin to build self-esteem by practicing the physical posture of confidence and presence.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 9. Make Eye Contact and Smile

What You'll Learn:

Even if it feels vulnerable at first, this practice can help you shift how others respond to you—and how you see yourself.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 10. Say "Hello"

What You'll Learn:

Even brief greetings can create a chain of positive interactions that help shift how others respond to you—and how you feel about yourself.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 11. Don't Evaluate Yourself Based on Others

What You'll Learn:

This audio encourages you to shift your focus inward and begin assessing yourself based on who you truly are, not on how others behave.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 12. Focus on Other People

What You'll Learn:

This audio guides you in practicing mindful engagement—paying full attention to others in a way that fosters connection, confidence, and mutual respect.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 13. Be Direct

What You'll Learn:

This audio guides you in using both tone and clarity to express yourself effectively, without fear of unnecessary rejection.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 14. Internalize Positive Responses

What You'll Learn:

This audio helps you shift from brushing off compliments to truly owning your strengths in a realistic, meaningful way.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 15. Accept Failure

What You'll Learn:

This audio reframes failure as a natural and necessary part of growth—not something to be feared or avoided.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 16. Visualize Success

What You'll Learn:

This audio guides you to mentally rehearse success by identifying achievable steps—improving both your mindset and your outcomes.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 17. Mentally Rehearse

What You'll Learn:

This audio guides you in practicing your success strategies in your mind—helping you prepare for real-life challenges with greater clarity and confidence.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 18. Act with Confidence-

What You'll Learn:

This audio helps you begin to shift your role, build new beliefs about your capability, and reinforce your self-worth through action.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 19. Redefine Rejection

What You'll Learn:

This audio explores how approval-seeking undermines self-worth—and how embracing your uniqueness, even when others disagree, strengthens it.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Step 20. Re-write Your Life Script

What You'll Learn:

Based on cognitive-behavioral principles, this final step brings together the skills you’ve developed and provides a way to maintain your growth going forward.

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem
Reflection and Next Steps

What You'll Learn:

Take time to reflect on the progress you’ve made and how to continue strengthening your self-esteem. Learn how to use your life script as a living guide for growth and how to stay on track even when old habits resurface.