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Crazy-Makers: Dealing with Passive-Aggressive People

Why Are People Mean? Don't Take It Personally!

When You Have Been Betrayed

Struggling to Forgive: An Inability to Grieve

Happy Habits: 50 Suggestions

The Secret of Happiness: Let It Find You (But Make the Effort)

Excellence vs. Perfection

Depression is Not Sadness

Conflict in the Workplace

Motivation: Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic

20 Steps to Better Self-Esteem

7 Rules and 8 Methods for Responding to Passive-aggressive People

Promoting Healthy Behavior Change

10 Common Errors in CBT

What to Do When Your Jealousy Threatens to Destroy Your Marriage

Rejection Sensitivity, Irrational Jealousy and Impact on Relationships

For Women Only: How to Have the Relationship of Your Dreams

What to Do When Your Partner's Jealousy Threatens to Destroy Your Relationship

Making Attributions for a Healthier Attitude

Happiness is An Attitude

Thinking Your Way to a Healthy Weight

Guide to How to Set Achieveable Goals

The Effectiveness of Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment for Anxiety Disorders

Co-Dependency: An Issue of Control

The Pillars of the Self-Concept: Self-Esteem and Self-Efficacy

Catastrophe? Or Inconvenience?


Panic Assistance

Motivational Audios

Mindfulness Training

Rational Thinking

Relaxation for Children

Change Yourself--Don't Wait for the World to Change

Loving Kindness Meditation

Self-Esteem Exercise

Meadow Relaxation

Rainy Autumn Morning

Energizing Audios

Quick Stress Relief

Thinking Your Way to a Healthy Weight

Lies You Were Told

Choosing Happiness

Lotus Flower Relaxation

Audio Version of Article: Crazy-Makers: Passive-Aggressive People

Audio Version of Article: Why Are People Mean? Don't Take It Personally!

Audio Version of Article: Happiness Is An Attitude

All Audio Articles

Kindle Books by Dr. Monica Frank


Why You Get Anxious When You Don't Want To

Why People Feel Grief at the Loss of an Abusive Spouse or Parent

“Are You Depressed?”: Understanding Diagnosis and Treatment

15 Coping Statements for Panic and Anxiety

Beyond Tolerating Emotions: Becoming Comfortable with Discomfort

Emotion Training: What is it and How Does it Work?

How You Can Be More Resistant to Workplace Bullying

Are You Passive Aggressive and Want to Change?

When Your Loved One Refuses Help

The Porcupine Effect: Pushing Others Away When You Want to Connect

What if You Considered Other Peoples' Views?

5 Common Microaggressions Against Those With Mental Illness

What to Expect from Mindfulness-based Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (MCBT) When You Have Depression and Anxiety

Does Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy Lack Compassion? It Depends Upon the Therapist

When Needs Come Into Conflict

What to Do When Anger Hurts Those You Love

A Brief Primer On the Biology of Stress and How CBT Can Help

50 Tools for Panic and Anxiety

Coping With Change: Psychological Flexibility

Breaking Up is Hard to Do: Ending a Bad Relationship

I'm Depressed. I'm Overwhelmed. Where Do I Start?


Building Blocks Emotion Training

Hot Springs Relaxation

5 Methods to Managing Anger

Panic Assistance While Driving

Autogenic Relaxation Training

Rainbow Sandbox Mindfulness

Mindfulness Training

Riding a Horse Across the Plains

Cityscape Mindfulness

Change Yourself--Don't Wait for the World to Change

The Great Desert Mindfulness

Tropical Garden Mindfulness

Thinking Your Way to a Healthy Weight

Lies You Were Told

Probability and OCD

Choosing Happiness

Magic Bubbles for Children

Lotus Flower Relaxation

Cloud Castles for Children

Hot Air Balloon Motivation

All Audio Articles


Depression CBT Self-Help Guide

The natural management of depression involves understanding depression and the factors that contribute to the symptoms. Learning to manage stress in your life and engage in self-care behaviors can improve your symptoms.
The Best Depression Apps of 2016 Contains:
  • Screening test with graph to monitor severity of depression
  • Articles about clinical depression and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)
  • 50 suggestions from CBT with a tracking feature to help focus positively and motivate
  • Depression Assistance Audio to help understand clinical depression
  • Cognitive Thought Diary to learn to challenge stressful thinking and provide positive feedback
  • Emotion Training Audio to learn to access calming states
  • Relaxation Audios to learn deep relaxation
  • Password protection available
  • Customization of graphics
  • This app contains a depression severity test, audios, articles, a cognitive diary, and a motivational points system that help you learn how to do this.

    I'm Depressed. I'm Overwhelmed. Where Do I Start?

    Although cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is the most effective treatment for depression, it can add to the already present feeling of being overwhelmed because it involves effort. Many people with depression think "What do you not get about 'I can't do anything!'?" when the therapist presents them with CBT treatment methods for depression.

    A common symptom of clinical depression is fatigue with the associated feature of lack of interest in normal activities. The individual with depression can feel overwhelmed with the simplest of tasks. Eating, brushing teeth, or showering can present major daily hurdles. The idea of the effort required by CBT can be daunting.

    Which is why it is best to have a CBT specialist develop a plan. The therapist can assist by creating manageable steps and by using sessions for training exercises on using the methods of CBT. A CBT specialist provides specific tools and techniques to change thinking and behavior. Read more...

    Depression Assistance Audio

    This audio provides information to help you understand your depression, to stop blaming yourself for the depression, and to explain the methods to reduce the stress that can contribute to the depressive symptoms. Although this audio has some mindfulness practice in it, the purpose is for education rather than relaxation. For more information, read What Is Depression? A Frequently Misunderstood Illness.

    What is Depression?
    How often does a depressed person hear comments such as these?

    “Just smile.”

    “Do something and you'll feel better.”

    “If you just stop being so negative, you wouldn't feel so bad.”

    “I don't know why you're so depressed. You have everything.”

    Some of these comments may be well-intentioned but they show a lack of understanding of the nature of depression. The problem is rooted in the use of the word “depression” as a diagnosis. The reason this is a problem is due to the word “depression” also being used by the public to describe a mood such as “I'm feeling depressed today.” However, a temporary mood and a diagnosable illness are two very different things. So the use of the same term to describe apples and oranges creates a great deal of confusion and misunderstanding.

    It certainly would make sense if we could change the name of the diagnosis to something else: “XYZ Disorder” that wouldn't have any other association in the public's mind. However, this was tried by the mental health profession in the past when they changed the diagnostic term manic-depression to bipolar disorder. At the same time they changed major depression to unipolar disorder but it wasn't accepted in either the public's mind or the profession's. Therefore, the best we can do at this point is to try and distinguish between the diagnosable conditions of depression and the common use of the word “depression.” Read more...

    Depression is Not Sadness Why is it important to differentiate depressive disorders from sadness? Most of the clients I treat for depressive disorders also feel guilty due to the belief that they "should" be able to handle their emotions better. After all, "other people are able to handle loss, grief, sadness." They reason that if they are so seriously affected they most be weak-willed or not trying hard enough. These feelings of guilt only serve to make the individual worse due to feelings of inadequacy. To refer again to the above analogy of being sick with a low-grade analogy, imagine that not only are you suffering due to the illness but you also believe that you are sick because you didn't take care of yourself well enough, you didn't exercise enough or eat the proper foods. Now, you might react to these statements by saying "That's ridiculous! Sometimes you can do all the right things and you still get sick!" And that is exactly my point. An individual with a depressive disorder doesn't have any more control over the illness of depression than someone with a virus; there are health practices that are beneficial but such practices don't eliminate illness completely. Read more...

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